Soulful Wahine

Episode 15: Why Your Nervous System Thinks Love Is A Threat

Kehaulani D., LCSW Season 1 Episode 15

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Have you ever felt anxious, overwhelmed, or even turned off when someone shows up for you in a healthy way?

You’re not broken—and you’re not “too much.”

Your nervous system may have simply learned that love isn’t safe.

In this episode of Soulful Wahine, we’re diving into how relational trauma and past experiences can wire your body to associate love with inconsistency, anxiety, or emotional pain. If you’ve ever found yourself craving deep connection but pulling away when it actually shows up, this conversation is for you.

We’ll talk about:

•why healthy love can feel unfamiliar (or even boring)

•how trauma shapes your attachment patterns

•the difference between emotional intensity and emotional safety

•how to begin creating a new, safer experience of love

This isn’t about blaming yourself—it’s about understanding yourself on a deeper level.

Because healing isn’t just about choosing better…

it’s about feeling safe enough to receive better.

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